“The semen is depending on thought, and life depends on the semen, therefore also the semen and also thought need to be watched over with great attention.”
In whichever way you look, in order to enter the world of tantric lovemaking, you need to learn how to stop ejaculating involuntarily. In this series of articles we will reveal how to do that.
Throughout history, men have been puzzled with the following, fundamental question, “How on earth do you truly satisfy a woman?” How do you bring a real smile on the face of that mysterious feminine creator? Tantra whispers in her ancient writings the secret formula that will open the heart of a woman and will make any boy turn into a man and make the sexual act turn into a spiritual ecstasy of great magnitude. In order to do these three great things the first step is to become a master of your semen.
Before we explain exactly how it is done, let’s see first why we do it. Some say that ejaculating is a natural act, this is how we were born, this is how it works with animals, so why go against our nature?
To these arguments, the tantra teacher answers: peeing is also a natural action, and we learn to control it; we don’t just pee when our bladder is full. In the same way that we control those needs, we need to learn to control our ejaculation reflex and make it a voluntary one, so we can ejaculate when we want to bring new life to this world and keep this valuable life liquid inside when we don’t intend to do that.
Freedom lays in having a choice, a true choice, a person who cannot control when he pees cannot say he is more free than one who controls it. The way to really grow as a man is to master the animalistic, unconscious, gross sexual urge which pushes him to ejaculate in a few minutes leaving his lover frustrated.
A woman needs half an hour of good continuous and loving stimuli in order to arrive in the first states of orgasm. (A woman can have more than 30 kinds of orgasm. We will name a few of them in the following articles). So a man who cannot control his animalistic sexuality will leave his woman rather unfulfilled. And a man who masters this function can prolong the act of love for hours and hours. Thus, the woman can experience many beautiful and ecstatic orgasms which go ever deeper in her heart and in her entire being.
Another curtail argument is the hidden force that exists in the sexual fluids of the man. In all authentic spiritual traditions these fluids are regarded as the sacred essence of life, holding in them an immense energy that could be harnessed into a great spiritual evolution. In the words of an ancient spiritual text from China: “Don’t pore your semen uselessly, don’t throw it like you are throwing something down from the sky, you will disturb the five fundamental bodily organs, wound the energy channels (meridians) and as a result you will cause all form of disease.” (Ishampo).
These and other topics regarding coupled relationships are discussed at our polarity retreat.